You did great! You are exactly the kind of member we want on here. Tough call, but the ends don't justify the means. Good job! Good luck!

 

of course she is smoking!!! but ya thanks manowar vin appreciate that way to kick someone when they are down. fawk it thats why i keep shyt to myself.

 

A sad story...

My ex-wife and I were into spearfishing when we were married. We started diving with somevery good spearfishermen thathad different thoughts of dive safety than I had. Westarted taking chances underwater that I didn't feel comfortable with, I told her that we either stick with proper dive safety or I am not diving again with her.For other reasons we got divorced. She had a fatal diving accident less a year after our divorce was finalized, she died in 110 ft of water, body never recovered, guessing nitrox accident or heart attack from equipment failure, she was diving alone but other people were underwater at the same time. She was 38 years old. There was a sequence of errors and events that lead to her death that were most likely entirely avoidable,you have to explain to your ex about what events that can happen that can kill you.

Diving and riding are the same in a lot of ways, but the best thing for you to do is say your piece to her about safety and then walk away. She is going to tell you that you are out of her life and that you can't control her, but just say your piece. She may become a statistic and you can only hope that your conscience is clear after it happens.

 

I'd have done the same thing....if that counts for anything...

 

Thanks again to all that back me or gave excellent advice and didnt make a joke of the situation. It really is tough. I mean its kind of something that i really would like to do (mechanic) but in due time ill sort my business. It just is simply intensified by the fact that im trying to make a career change coupled with a relationship gone sour. It was one of those relationships where you can do nothing but question everything and there is always an excuse as an answer (usually a stupid one). One of those that makes you question yourself as being overberring. I think most of us have been in one. Lucky for me i got to fall in love before realizing lol. Oh well again appreciate everything folks. Great bunch of riders.

Oh and fishfryer thanks for sharing that really. I know its gotta hurtto share that but i will use it to hopefully benefit another.

i guess after all that though she tells me they are stunters which is cool until they bring it to the street and risk fellow riders and so on.

Thanks again and ill be stayin low and outta sight!

 

tell her "k thx bi" and walk away forever

 

yeah fish is right, say your piece but in the end, she is going to do what she's going to do...

the worst part about moving on is the moving on part....the hardest part is getting away...there will always be something to remind you somehwere somehow....but you shouldn't purposefully put yourself in situation that doesn't allow you to move on (the mechanics job)....doing that is leaving a tiny seed in the back of your head that something may change....or even worse, it gives her power over you, even if it's just the i got you a job thing...plus you'll be tormented by stories and whatnot....

besides the fact that these guys sound like a-holes...it's just not worth the mental anguish....you have done the hard first part and that is letting go....you HAVE to follow through....from personal experience, if you don't....it sets a pattern and it takes a LONG time to break free once you start that cycle....

be strong, you're making the right decision....you'll be a stronger person in the long run....and don't worry, things only seem down because a lot is changing but it will even out....just keep focused on the goal which is getting everything back on track...WITHOUT her...once you do....she'll be out of your mind and you'll be completely ready to move on....

good luck...fight the good fight...LOL...

 

several times in my life I have been forced into bad situations to try to affect positive change and be a positive role model for those around me. For you this is not the case you have a choice. The alternative will be to compromise your personal integrity and believes do not do it, forget about it. I know it is easier said than done .You have been given some very sound advice on moving forward. I suggest you take it. You could mentor to her on her riding habits but your level of influence with her is far diminished. And most likely will prove to be futile, but I personally could not leave the situation without making an effort to do so. Other opportunities will present themselves for you to get your foot in the door and get started on a career. If you make them happen. Teamwork and networking are great things but you must first pursue., The objective at hand, aggressively as possible, to help create these opportunities