subject should be from one problem to another. ok so I resolved the earlier problems, now for some reason one I changed the ignition coil on cylinder 1 the ignition coil on 3 stopd working. is this normal? should I have changed all 4? I had to change the coil in 1 due to the fact that it was not grasping the spark plug.

 

There is a fine wire in the tip of the coil. Remove the rubber tip and use a sharp tip object to bend it out and it will grasp the end of the plug just fine.