Good luck we all wish you and your family the best of luck in this horrible situation you've been placed in. Keep us posted.

 

Just an opinion, stand firm like the others have said set a date for goals and help him meet them. Show some appreciation for meeting your goals. It is very hard for you and him, he's probably pretty low on self esteem, so your family will have to help. If he is still using get him out, there's no place for that in a home, it could lead to all kinds of problems. I have seen it first hand, when I was younger I was wild but I never took that **** around my family I didn't even visit I would call, but I didn't want the people I dealt with to know anything about my family. God bless and good luck, I'll say a prayer for your family tonight.

 

Not too clear to me is he working? If yes, then ask him about helping out. Explain to him times are tight and you enjoy helping him with recover and that you are there for him but would appreciate the help in return. If he is worthless talk about it with your wife and explain that she must talk with him about the situation if neither above helps, i think getting his *** kicked might be the solution.

 

I got ur wacky answer...kick them all out, ill sell my house and move in and mooch off of u... ok j/k

Honestly, addiction is no joke. My lil brother is having that problem right now and is in rehab for it. He is just starting to get acclimated to the world again and he is scared ****less cause all the people we know just go to a bar and drink for fun and nothin else. Of course this leads to other things and such cause lets face it, the people at the bar everynight aint your best friends and dont really give 2 ****es bout u as long as u got some money to throw down. Ive been there myself to a point and i just had to walk away which def aint easy, and when i found out my lil brother overdosed, it damn near killed me. But thankfully he is pretty much ok as far as health wise, he is just gonna have to figure out a better way to spend his time.

My brother isnt the only one that ive known to get addicted to drugs, so i feel like i can offer some advice as far as this goes. As far as him havin a job, if he does and he knew the agreement was to pay up at the end of the month and he aint...he is using again.
If he doesnt have a job yet, find out what the hell he does all day, like where he goes cause honestly, if he is just fresh out of a 30 day program that didnt do ****e for his cravings i would bet. Tell your wife that its your house and you dont want him round your kid if he is using. u might wanna give him a drug test bout once a week to just to c. Trust me, it will be better for him and u if you do cause if he knows that hes got a suprise test he prolly wont wanna use. Also, talk to him. Tell him that he does have to start takin some other types responsibilities on in his life like gettin a job and that it is only part of life.

Im not sayin that he is using or that he isnt, it just takes a group involvment in order to make sure that he wont. Im sure your wife loves him, but sometimes you do have to let the chicks out of the nest so to speak. Let her know that he has to take some responsibilities on like helpin wit the bills in order for him to live a better life. O and make sure he is going to meetings at least a couple of times a week and not hangin out wit any of his old friends at all...they just lead to trouble. And u r right bout the dealers (being a former a$$hole myself) they will come lookin for their money and wont give 2 ****es bout u or your family cause they got people to pay themselves as well (and those people really dont care).

 

you're supposed to beat your step child so give him a good beating...

on a more serious note, your wife needs to wake up...it's her blood and she will defend him to the death...it's also your daughter and you need to defend her to the death.

it's wrong of him to put all of you into the hole. basically it comes down to this...the kid needs to get a job and start paying...and your wife needs to stop making excuses for him and stop giving him handouts...

the good Book says it best...give a mang a fish and he'll eat for a day...teach a mang to fish...you know the outcome.