thank you guys for the advices, they;re really helpful,, i was planning to take her out for a dinner then stop talking to her for good.
i havent talked to her for 5 days, she just called me aboit 15 mins ago...the conversation was cool, she almost criedthen we started an argument over nothing..
then she told me that she's leaving the country for her birthday. ( for 2 weeks)..something about the argument that bugs me and im stressing again.
anyways im gonna for a spin, hitting up the hills, to take my mind off of this ****.

 

just be careful. riding while your mind is in another place can be dangerous if you find yourself thinking more about the girl than the road ahead of you. from my personal experience, and from helping friends get through similar situations, when a relationship gets to this point, it hardly ever works out in the end. my advice would be to try your best to move on and know that there's someone out there for you. i didn't believe my friends when they told me this same thing, but it was true and i thank God thati was able to let go cause if i hadn't, i would have never met the girl i'm now engaged to.

 

I think thats gonna be your sign right there kid...she doesnt want much to do with you anymore...do yourself a favor ...kick your self one more time in the seat of the pants and move on.Dont let it ruin your life or become so bad something more serious happens...

 

If I can share any advice learned from my experience...it would be this. Whatever you do, do NOT let her keep your heart on a chain. If you let her string you along, she'll get what she wants without you ever getting what you want. She wants your compassion, your listening, your caring, and your attention. If she gets all that for free, what reason does she have to ever come back to you?

The Funny thing about women is that they love it when you dig deep and be a man. I dated this girl for 2 years, and I was completely into her. We were together all the time and everything. I moved away for a year and like 6 months into it she broke up with me, but told me she "wanted to get back together sometime." I let that keep me going for over a year, still treating her like we were together but getting nothing back. Then, I finally got depressed enough and fed up enough that I basically told her that if she wanted to be with me, great, but I wasn't going to be dragged across the rocks anymore. What do you know, the next day, she wants me more than ever. She did end up coming back to me, but only after I proved that I wasn't gonna lay down anymore.

To answer your question, I'd say buy her the bday present, but nothing big. Buy her a present on par with what you'd buy one of your friends, not something you'd buy a girlfriend, and come clean about it. If you keep treating her like she's your girlfriend, or even kind of like that, she won't likely be back. You can still talk, but make her just a normal aquaintance in your head. One of the toughest things I've ever had to do man, but it worked.
Good luck