No, its a contradiction in terms ... if someones had enough of her "****" then shes not great at all ...

This is applicable to all men and women ... dont take crap, dont take flakey behaviour, dont take abuse or insults, dont take cheating or them seeing other people .it means they dont love you and if they dont love you then you dont want to be anywhere near them ...

This stuff is so simple ...

Jules

 

well I guess it was no matter how great you think a girl is.. heh well sorry bout that though.. I'm kinda in a rut and feeling pretty betrayed by the whole opposite sex.. I've been stepped on too many times. Honestly before I tried dating this recent person I had reached a point with girls where I felt like I'd just give up on them and I'd eventually run into the right person some time in my life. I was ready to stop looking. I can't be that way though. There are plenty of great people out there.

 

You have the right idea here .. we all get stepped on both men and women but its important not to turn it into a gender thing .. *some* people are bad news whether they be male or female .. I have been stepped on in the most horrible ways but you will never see me put men down or become negative about them .. you have to stay positive ..by staying positive you attract "like" ..its when you become negative and get into your head "oh all women are evil" or "all men are b&$3rds" balh blah blah that this comes across to others and you end up being perceived as negative which often attracts negativity .. I know its hard, but its all a learning process until hopefully one day we find "the one" ...

Another important thing to note here is this ..you are infinitely better off alone than with the wrong one ..believe this!!

Also dont try and put pressure on yourself to meet a partner the whole time ..its something we all need and woudl love but you need to find peace and some happiness in yourself first .. dont pin it all on meeting someone, never make your happiness reliant on someone else ..sure they can make you happy but you have to be happy within yourself too


Jules

 

Don't get too upset, it was not meant to be, this stuff happens to everybody. I dated a girl for 8 years, things didn't work out, she gave me bunch of **** and I left her. I was heart broken for a while, cause I really liked the girl, but couldn't take her bs, I felt similar to you. That was 2 years ago, dated about 15 girls, every one of them ended up not being what I was looking for, I was getting kind of frustrated, but then we got a new girl at work, and she was really nice and all, but I really didn't pay attention to her, I liked the other girl. Then I went to the party and the girl that I liked ended up being a total bitch, but the other girl ended up really cool, and she ended up asking me out the next day, and I said what the hell. Well we've been hanging out ever since, she doesn't call me ever ( thank god), she treats me very well, always pays for stuff or at least offers to pay, doesn't make a big deal about it, always very thankful if I pay. Always fun to hang out, doesn't judge me ever, pretty much exact opposite of what I thought she would be like.

Just hang in there bud, you'll find a better girl, but my advice is not to give them all the attention, take it easy, treat them with respect, but if they want to play games, drop them like a bad habit and keep on trucking and never look back.

 

That's somewhat right, but also somewhat wrong. People make mistakes. It doesn't mean their love is gone, just that they simply made a mistake. There's some stuff you have to take a stand over, but other stuff you just need to realize how little it means in the grand scheme.

Dude, what I would tell you is: If you really like the girl, try to talk to her, go to her room or something, have a serious "we need to talk" convo, it's not easy getting there, and may be awkward, but sometimes it's worth it. If you don't care so much, then just let it be. If she wants you she'll come back, if not so be it. I would HIGHLY be wary of anything being that she came into your room buzzed. Alcohol makes us remember our ex's and have feelings for them we never would sober.

 

Yeah.. I'm just gonna lay low for a while :P I'll gather my crap up later and just try again with a diff girl..

Oh and jules, I'm not trying to turn the people I meet into partners or anything like that. I've been out with a few girls this year and things weren't right. This girl I dated for a few weeks and she was the one who pushed the whole partner thing on me sorta.. I didn't like it at first and just wished she'd stop.. but, she grew on me. It was a fairly short lived relationship though. A few of her friends have told me that they thought what she did was pretty cruddy. So it's completely not my fault. I'll get over this eventually.. I've just been dwelling on it for a little too long. Kinda frustrating actually since I don't sleep much and I end up thinking on this subject WAY more than it's healthy to. heh I just need to play my guitar some more and get all this outta my system.

plus.. talking, errm.. typing about it helps. I don't really have anybody to talk about this stuff with really.

 

She went off with another guy ..there is no "we need to talk" ..he needs to never think about her again ..evar!! .. trust me as a girl I know we dont do that if we love you or care for you ..she has low or flakey interest in him ..he has nothing but heartache ahead with this girl ...

Jules

EDIT: soccer, yes ..people do make mistakes ..but when that mistake is one of cheating or going off with someone else and ignoring you then its a fatal mistake ..a total deal breaker and an absolute!!

 

Agreed. It can't end well.

 

pppftt....girls.....shoot us all...problem solved

 

Dammit Pam ..you"ve just undone months of work now .. some of them were starting to believe we arent all evil ...sigh

Oh well back to the drawing board ..I can always fall back on JulBot if all esle fail ;-)

Jules