UPDATE

Ok, I finally got to the bottom of this drama. I hate drama.
She said the reason I'm not invited, and she did feel bad about this, is because she's afraid of him stirring up ****e and her friends party and ruining it. Apparently, this dude is totally crazy. Even after douche and my new girl broke up, he was really pissed that she went on a single date with someone else. This douche even beat up one of her guy friends because douche is the mega crazy jealous type. He picked a fight with her guy friend, who's a football player and 6'6", and douche is only 5'9". Apparently he has some issues and she's afraid he'll start something with me at the party, out in public. Now, I don't care, I'd still go since I'm level headed and don't start crap. After hearing all of this, I can understand it. She doesn't care what he thinks, nor does she even like being around him (they're in the same classes at grad school, so she can't avoid him), but she says she's uncomfortable around him and doesn't know what he's capable of. Douche never admitted it, but that football player guy friend - had his car tires slashed and other stuff vandalized shortly after the fight, whenever that was.
I think she's being honest after all of that. When she first told me about the party in the first place, we were studying together on sunday, but I didn't want to get in a conversation about it as she was studying for a final, so I let it go. Apparently I had a really disgruntled look on my face though hahaha that she picked up on.
Now, I know she's into me, because she already paraded me around a few of her friends a few weeks ago. I felt like a piece of hot sexy meat! Some of her friends will even make a "surprise" visit when I'm there to check me out. "Oh, I didn't know you were going to be here" lol, whatever hahaha

 

Wait...If hes that crazy...why is he invited to the party again?

 

What is a relationship good for if you have too be hidding from that a.hole, it seems that he's going to be in most parties; than you have to think if this girl is worth it.

 

Just something for you to consider, coming from a female. If her ex and the b-day girl are friends, then perhaps she just doesn't want any friction or tension between you and the ex to ruin the party for the b-day girl. Like I said, this is just something to think about. There might be other reasons, on her part, that you weren't invited, but not wanting any trouble for the friend was my first thought.

 

YO please tell me you didnt ask her why you couldnt go to get this last lil bit of information!!

 

Well, she called me anyway and I brought it up since I didn't get a chance on Sunday. All I know is I better not be playing back seat to this guy in the future. Now I just want to beat his *** for all the things he's done to others.
On the flip side, the gf said she's coming to my trackday on Sunday. I'm totally going to put her to work...changing tires, taping lights....hahaha

 

Well dude I hope everything work out but you shouldve just let it roll. It def. would ve worked out in your favor I believe. I mean you wouldve flipped it on her so hard if you didnt ask anything bout it. My way was win-win cuz. I mean look at it like this: you wouldve got some serious "trust" points, if you didnt say anything she wouldve been like this dude on a complete diff. level cause most dudes(obviously most of them in this forum lol) wouldve been **** stormin, that an dude a free "kitchen pass" to go out with the boys-shiii yall get serious you dont get many of those when you settle down. That an you wouldve actually got two nights out with the boys wit no hassle. Cs when you wanna go out an she tries to drop foot on ya, you could be like remember when... Im tellin ya cuz that shiiii gets em twisted all up lol

 

I guess you shouldn't have said anything and if you felt that the vag was different or something than you should dump her. If the vag dont fit, you must aquit.

 

she's either embarressed by you and doesnt want you around her friends, or she's planning on boinking the Ex. Get out now.

 

"Its me, not you". Hahhahaaha if she says that to ya, I think she deserves a pimp slap. I think all women that use that excuse (yes its an excuse) deserves a pimp slap. I'd rather hear, "I'm doing your best friend" than hear that.