I'd say move forward, I've been in your situation, dated a girl for 4 years, broke up, dated lots of girls, but none were better, so we got back together year and a half later, dated for another 3 years and things went the same way again, broke up again, and I haven't talked to her since, she send me an email, and that's it, dated lots of girls, and none of them were better till about 2 months ago, this one chick that I met is just something special, younger, smarter, funnier, better looking, bigger jugs, very cool, and I haven't thought about my ex since.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cysd3...eature=related Here you go.

 

Nothing like unacquainted love, and some feelings of guilt to keep you up late at night with the mind poring over what could have been.

1 did you accuse her of a pregnancy scam, and she actually had a miscarriage. If this is the case, you may have burned a bridge on a river you'll never be able to forge.

2 it is a very common thing to want what we can't have. Are you sure deep down, this is not what this is about. Are you sure you love her, and you're not trying to prove something to yourself and make up for some feelings of guilt.

3 Sigmund Freud could not decipher a woman's mind and I claim to have no inside knowledge of their workings. But there are different types of women. Some like to be pursuit. If he loves me he will come after me and ask me to work things out. There are others who need their space and time to work out their feelings and will eventually come your way. If it's in their best interest and there are those who are trapped in the middle with indecision and wait on karma or fate to decide how things should play out.

Okay, if you have taken the above into consideration. And honestly believe there is a good chance of a reconciliation because you have matured and have grown into a man and not an adolescent. Because you are truly at the age , where the brain begins to act and not react to situations. It is the true beginning of a thinking mind. And as far as I'm concerned is the first step into real adulthood but that's neither here nor there with this topic other than you have reached that point in your life. So my suggestion is take it slow as everyone has advised you be prepared to at some point explain yourself for your previous conduct. And remember all those surrounding her as well as her will be looking for the old you to appear but do not bring up the past First . Let her kick the dog first, and remember those who love you will forgive you for your transgressions, but will never forget them.

 

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Ill make it quick cause I like my toe nails.

Shes there and your over here and the memories (grass is greener) get better over time. enjoy what you HAD!!

 

Seriously all the talk seems to be about whether you still love her or not or really still do want her...

She has to love and want you too...if not it doesn't matter how hard you love her/miss her, it's all in your head.

Test her interest by not being so available, don't answer emails right away, if she's only sending two a week it sounds pretty luke warm to me, a woman in Love and who wants to get close again would be doing more, maybe ringing etc.

In fact she should ring and ask you out if she cares that much...

I still say move on, you can never go back, it always fails even if it's ten years down the line...

 

^This gal right here sounds like she knows what she's talking about, I would take her advice^[&:]

 

Jule's is right and I still think you should move on. I think you are in love with the girl from 3 years ago-not the girl she is now-think about that. As time goes on and people are apart they tend to forget about all the bad stuff and BS and only dwell on the good and fun stuff, but remember the bad stuff is why you broke up.

I know in my head and heart that my Ex Maggie-the love of my life is better left a thought in my head then anything else at this point and forever. Like Jule's said you may still love her,but she may not still love you and that my friend is a ****ty situation to be in-been there done that.

In the end you have to do what you want and have to do, but you did ask us all so take it for what it's worth.

Good luck and God bless.

 

Thanks for the votes of confidence guys...I wish the world was different ...but it's not...

Jules x

 

I would say watch out be carefull she could just be miserable out there with her folks and looking for a way out of there. Happen with me when I was 22 me and X broke up I kicked her out of the Apartment she moved in with her folks few months down the road she shows up and wants to try it again. Come to find out she was just miserable at her parents, Also didnt help that my heart just wasnt there anymore. Long run didn't work out. We also have a daughter toghther as well... I would just leave the past to the past you went and emailed her she didn't email you first. Well any who if you do go on with it hope every thing works out.

Also I hooked up several several timesafter her and then fond my wife who blows my X out of the water looks,Body,Mind,Soul. I would not go back and change anything that happend.

 

I have never gone back to a relationship and had it be successful. Tried it with a girl I dated three years in highschool, and tried it with my ex-wife (we actually separated twice). The problem is, you get older an more mature (so do they), and many times you grow apart. You just become different people and whatever held you together before could very well be gone. Doesn't mean don't try it, though. Worst case scenario, you will learn some bigtime life lessons.