So im 25 and wanting some advice from you older farts with alittle wisdom and experience.

Ill make this short. Me and my last serious GF broke up about 3 yrs ago, (bc I was an immature *****, who didnt know how good i had it) The 2 of us have not talked at all since, (very serious chain of events that led to us breaking up.. pregnancy scare/miscarraige) Well she moved back from Oklahoma to PA with her family ( i had no idea ). So i emailed her about 3 months ago just to say hi, see how she was blah blah, and we have been emailing about twice aweek since.

Should i try to get this one back or am i just going to shoot myself in the foot? Great girl love her to death just never have a clue whats going through her F ing mind..

Not stressing about it, just curious if any of your input will help me make a decision.

Thanks...


All comments welcome unless your going to be a *****, in which case i will hunt you down and pull your toenails off. LOL

 

Rule #1 Take it slow if you rush into things it will just end up like before.

I think the past should be the past, but you never know, everything happens for areason. What do you have to lose? And btw no f$cking that will make things complicated.

 

Try to be her friend first...


...If things went south that bad, I 'm not sure she'll take you back too easily.

(You'll NEVER be able to figure out what's going through her mind. She's a woman, they're wired differently than we are, I've been married for 5 years, and I still haven't figured out what goes through my wife's mind. just learn to say "yes dear" )

 

I would say take it nice and slow, but I wouldn't cut it out of the picture. I mean, probably what will happen is you two can go hang out a few times, for "old times sake" and just see what kind of vibe you get, as friends, when you see each other in person. Never base a plan for a relationship, or the possibility of one, off of anything on the internet that's based around text. Text gets too much time to be edited and thought about before it happens... it doesn't show people for how they really are.

 

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

 

Well in my opinion... just move on, old relations end the same or worst.

 

are you interested now because you love her or more from past guilt?

 

love her.... would have married her but i was too young and dumb.

 

Please, please, please try to move on...nothing good ever comes from "going back" ...basically all the old things rear their heads, you two obviously had problems with each other...do two people in love break up?, if a woman loves a man she doesn't give up...you contacted her...did she contact you? ..no!

She sounds luke warm from here...I'm sorry I see nothing but heart break ... even if you work for a while the odds are against it for the long haul...sorry!

Learn from the mistakes you made with this girl and apply to someone new and who truly loves you...

Jules X


PS Remember it doesn't matter how much you love her if she doesn't love you back...

 

Keep up with the e-mails, but DON'T start sending like 5 a day. If she's only sending you a couple a week, only send her a couple. See what happens from there. If she wants to she'll start contacting you more.