Girlfriend troubles
#41
03-20-2007 | 08:18 PM
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RE: Girlfriend troubles
take it from me, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. but do it on a good day otherwise you may find she wont listen. it is difficult having a young child andtrying tostart a new relationship.i was in the same position a fair few years ago and it does take time. you have to be sure you want the commitment not only for yourself but for the little one, its always harder on them when you walk away later on. i hope it all works out for you, your both very young and need to enjoy life as well as all the other heavy stuff that goes with settling down. take care all
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#43
03-20-2007 | 10:22 PM
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RE: Girlfriend troubles
ORIGINAL: tillersluck1117
lol we're just engadged we're not gettin married for atleast another 10years
lol we're just engadged we're not gettin married for atleast another 10years
ridiculous. You both need to take a step back and evaluate your situation.
#44
03-21-2007 | 10:21 AM
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RE: Girlfriend troubles
ORIGINAL: voodoochyl
I think another issue at hand is the fact that you have someone else's offspring calling you daddy. That is not healthy for you or the kid. Now, at 18, you have a sense of responsibility for a fiancee and a child??? Not fair...it is hard enough when you get someone pregnantat a young age...and that is YOUR child. Anyway, the growth you will experience form now to 25 cannot be described in words. The growth you experience from 25-30 is another huge leap. I got married at 19, and we got divorced five years later because we grew in the opposite direction. I didn't like her anymore and she didn't like me; we became different than we were when we first met. Now, at 33, she is the last person on the face of the earth that I would be interested in (not from past experience)...but because she is NOT my cup of tea. Anyway, hang out with her and just see how it goes. No need to commit to ANYTHING...be smart, take your time, stop using words like marriage and fiancee
...good luck!
I think another issue at hand is the fact that you have someone else's offspring calling you daddy. That is not healthy for you or the kid. Now, at 18, you have a sense of responsibility for a fiancee and a child??? Not fair...it is hard enough when you get someone pregnantat a young age...and that is YOUR child. Anyway, the growth you will experience form now to 25 cannot be described in words. The growth you experience from 25-30 is another huge leap. I got married at 19, and we got divorced five years later because we grew in the opposite direction. I didn't like her anymore and she didn't like me; we became different than we were when we first met. Now, at 33, she is the last person on the face of the earth that I would be interested in (not from past experience)...but because she is NOT my cup of tea. Anyway, hang out with her and just see how it goes. No need to commit to ANYTHING...be smart, take your time, stop using words like marriage and fiancee
...good luck!
#45
03-21-2007 | 02:33 PM
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RE: Girlfriend troubles
Thanks in so many ways guys.. I have read each and every comment atleast once if not twice rackin my brain and everything and we talked yesterday I think or the day before and we had a sierous talk her mom watched the baby.
We had a real talk and came to earth on ALOT of things and how she was treatin me and she looked at it from my view and was well sorta shocked at herself and told me she was really sorry.
We are going to go look at a bike tomorrow CBR 600 F4I 03 model and she told me she cant wait to go riding with me (which is pretty cool)
But who knows when im 21 we might not be together I hope so... But Im going to print off this topic and put it up somewhere and in a few years I'm going to pull it back out and see if we're still together =P
Thanks to all who have gave me there 2 cents! (im not bein sarcastic im bein sierous thats why I asked)
We had a real talk and came to earth on ALOT of things and how she was treatin me and she looked at it from my view and was well sorta shocked at herself and told me she was really sorry.
We are going to go look at a bike tomorrow CBR 600 F4I 03 model and she told me she cant wait to go riding with me (which is pretty cool)
But who knows when im 21 we might not be together I hope so... But Im going to print off this topic and put it up somewhere and in a few years I'm going to pull it back out and see if we're still together =P
Thanks to all who have gave me there 2 cents! (im not bein sarcastic im bein sierous thats why I asked)
#46
03-21-2007 | 02:58 PM
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03-21-2007 | 03:54 PM
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#50
03-21-2007 | 04:17 PM
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RE: Girlfriend troubles
Some good advice here, some perhaps a bit harsh but its a tricky topic.
You have a lot of life ahead of you, and this makes for a very difficult start, and a time
when you are learning a lot and facing a bunch of other struggles.
I've been married 7 years, and based on my experience, and those around me, I don't think you
should expect her to change. Just like we don't want our gf's to try and change us, we shouldn't expect
that they are going to change. Perhaps her stress is child related, perhaps not.
Talking about it is a good option, and a must if you plan to stick it out. Taking a break and seeing how you
feel is also a good option. Hopefully in addition to the love, you also have plenty of other stuff in common and
some common goals for the coming few years.
It took ***** to even post the question, thats good stuff, now consider all the advice carefully.
Good luck,
You have a lot of life ahead of you, and this makes for a very difficult start, and a time
when you are learning a lot and facing a bunch of other struggles.
I've been married 7 years, and based on my experience, and those around me, I don't think you
should expect her to change. Just like we don't want our gf's to try and change us, we shouldn't expect
that they are going to change. Perhaps her stress is child related, perhaps not.
Talking about it is a good option, and a must if you plan to stick it out. Taking a break and seeing how you
feel is also a good option. Hopefully in addition to the love, you also have plenty of other stuff in common and
some common goals for the coming few years.
It took ***** to even post the question, thats good stuff, now consider all the advice carefully.
Good luck,