Jason, losing someone you love or care about hurts just as much at 17 as it does at 30, just because you're young don't minimise it, you're entitled to hurt and let it out...you WILL get better, please trust me on this...I know it seems like everything is against you just now but it's not Jason....it's the mind playing tricks on you...one thing you must continue to do is to eat as best as you can, I know you hardly feel like eating when hurting but you have to and drink plenty of water, rest when you can and don't beat yourself up over anything...it's just life Jason, you're young and have so many things and life experiences ahead of you...be gentle with yourself, chill, go for walks and heal...ok?

It's really going to be fine! :-)


Jules X

PS If you need to talk please feel free to PM me, please don't get too down... :-)

 

In the very old childrens book "the little engine that could", the goal was to have tommy believe in himself enough to get over the mountain. This was for children.

In Algebra, the goal is to turn every negative into a positive. This is for young adults.

In middle maturity, life gives you credit and responsibility. As you grow, obstacles will always be there, and your mission is to determine how either to overcome them or find how to salvage situations.

In mid life crisis, we (speaking from experience) tend to let life come to us in hopes that our beliefs of past are our precursor to our old age. And if they don't we take life by the horns and are more progmatic toward meeting our goals.

At old age, you reflect on your life. But all that make it to old age, have given themselves the opportunity to at least look back. Give yourself the chance to lookback.

 

JD,

It will get better and worse. I think we all hit stages in life of "Why" and get overwhelmed and nothing goes right. It will get better only if you want it too.

Hell Im 39 and were in the same boat. I own my own company work 12 to 15 hrs a day have a 1967 Firebird with a built 327 ready for a transplant ( I soooo want to drive it) but Im saving for parts and needing time that I don't have to complete it. The wife gets mad cause I walk in the garage and I say stupid stuff like "Im just going to sell the piece of **** cause its never going to run" out of frustration. Sure I could drop in the motor and drive it but thats not what I have planned and If piece it together thats all it is a piece. So I will wait to do it right.

As for the girl I still think about my first love to this day.

Keep your head up....

 

If you can stay off the anti depressants that's good...I don't like their use in one so young...

Jules

 

Keep your head up bro. After 4 years of living together mine gf walked out this past July. Was like standing on train tracks with a train coming full speed ahead. I'd like to tell you it won't hurt, but that would be a lie. **** happens, and you have to deal with it. That is what life is all about, and unfortunately, as you now know, this is one of lifes experiences. This girl, I worked two jobs, 60+ hours a week and she didn't even work half of that time. This girl WAS my life. Everything I did, I did to make sure she was happy and had what she needed. Now, I have a new life that doesn't involve her. Would that of been my choice? No, absoultely not, but that was the hand I was dealt. In the end, we have all been there one point or another, but you just have to stick it out. You don't get anywhere in life without some hardwork and determination (well, some people do, but they are typically stuck up spoiled and handed everything in life, they will end up feeling of a lack of accomplishment). Even still right now, I'm alone, I work full time, go to school fulltime, and do almost nothing every day. Life is monotonous and boring sometimes, and when you don't think you can get any lower, as voodoo would say, you get punched in the neck again. Just hang in there and things will get better after you get where you are going. Also, don't go looking for another girl, when the time is right, she will come to you.

 

For what it's worth...I'd stick my soul in a handbasket to hell...to be 17 again...lol


Jules

 

Think of this person: The person who doesn't even have a bike, hasn't had the joy of being in love with his girlfriend, isn't in school, and doesn't have a job. That person may be down I would imagine.

You, you don't have it so bad ya' know!

I praise you for turning away from those damn meds. One of my kids (I'm a youth counselor) has a prescription for some "A.D.D." drug. He doesn't take it and his mom doesn't even know. She thinks the drug is helping. He made a consious decision to put "mind over matter" and control himself, rather than letting some f'ing doctor control him. So good for you on that one!

You're young, you already know that,what you may not feel though, is that you're going to bounce back. Things like this time in your life make you better and stronger as you mature. You will appreciate when you find the right woman. It may be in college, or at work. You will be glad you stayed in school and have a good work ethic, because it will get you a good job. I good job means a working bike! I beleive God has picked you to be a successful, happy adult in the near future and this is whyyou're going through all this right now. It's kind of a test, if you will. Keep your head up, pass the test and you will be rewarded.

 

Hell, I'm only 22 and I know what you mean.

 

Excellent advice :-)...also if you pull yourself back up without the pills you truly will be just that much better and stronger...

Jules

 

JD, hang in there man. Just this week I was feeling down and thinking whats the point of liveing life? I'm 30 I have a nice little house, a nice car and truck plus the good old F4. I have a very streeful job, but a good job. I have tons to be thankful for and I see that now, but I was just in a rut-it happens to all of us.

I lost the love on my life and it still hurts to this day and it's been over 2 years, but I know i'm better off without her. Your 17 and have many years to live if you do it right. I have read lot of your posts and you seem to be a crazy kid that likes risk. Well life is a risk and since it seem you have the ***** to take a risk go do. Get up-stop feeling sorry for yourself and make something good happen. Whatever you want to do in life-do it and do it well. I am not much of a risk taker and that is a downfall of mine.

As far as the meds go I feel if you can manage without them then stay off them.

Keep your head up and remember you have alot to live for and God has a plan for you. Like was said "Everything happens for a reason"

Your online brother.
Ben.