One thing I have learned in my 29 years of being on this earth is that women always want what they do have or can't have. Right now she does not have you so she may want you, but ask yourself do you want her back? if not the just leave her alone and she'll get the hint. If you do want her back then speak up, but remember Ex's are Ex's for a reason.

 

Did I hear that you would like to inviter her for a day of romping fun that will end that day? No strings attached, just a day of all out pounding her. Oh, wait...that never ends in not strings, that ends in her getting knocked up and runing the rest of your life!!!!

 

she could be way worse..trust me...... anyways sounds like she isnt stalking you or anything so maybe sh eis missing you and wants to start talking again .. i mean 7yrs is hard to throw away for anyone

 

I don't know man, i must be reading this wrong or something.

as far as i can tell from your post, you broke up on pretty even ground, with no REAL hard feelings (ie, one of you cheated or something). it took some time, her parents, or her, wanted to get yourcrap out of the house. you hang out with her step dad occasionaly, and she wrote you an e-mail congratulating you on becoming an uncle.

I must be missing the part where she is acting crazy. If you told her that you would marry her when you got your stuff together, she is probably still kind of waiting for that. If she wanted to get married, which apparently she did, she's not going to throw that out of her mind yet. To women marriage is HUGE they dream about it forever. she is still in love with you, and it seems to me that she is just trying to be nice and keep atleas SOME chanel of communication open.

Thats just my 2 cents.

 

I agree with itg, I don't think its stalking, more just being friendly and you're reading into it more than what needs to be. Maybe you're still harboring feelings for her and would like her getting back in your life.

And, you will never "be on your feet" enough to get married, that sounds just like a delaying tactic. If you truly want to marry and live with someone you will find a way to make it happen.

 

She may be regretting the break up, or she may just want to keep you within arms reach so she doesn't end up alone. Just follow your heart and do what you feel is right for you.

 

I am not going to lie, I am not over her, I think about her almost everyday, and I would like for her to be in my life, BUT like everybody said that I treated her bad, I always put my cars infront of her I guess, and said things that were kind of mean sometimes, but I always loved her and never meant to hurt her, but I guess I did. I wasn't bsing her about getting on my feet, I do want to get my **** together, so I can give her and my kids things that I've never had and then some, but she took it that I was just bsing her and it was her desicion. I can't really do anything about it, I am a pretty hard person to deal with, and I just want her to be happy either with me or without me. Oh and my sis and her husband thinks that we'll get married one day, which I find kind of funny. Oh well, I just got done getting my 2 year degree and will be going to the police academy ( my ex grandpa is an ex shieff of police), so I'll be getting on my feet sometime next year.

 

The reason that I didn't put up a fight is because I gave her what she wanted, she told me the same thing that she wanted to be married sometime in the future, and I told her that we might or might not, which is the truth.

 

She was more mature and everything and I was the immature one in the relationship, but I said what I said was true, I didn't want to start family broke, I wanted to get on my feet. I didn't get anybody pregnant, I follow the simple rule, if you can't support your family/kids, don't make any. Most of my friends that are my age already been married/divorced, had kids, paying alimony. Not me, I think before everything.

 

You might be right, but I did leave her alone, I haven't seen her since we broke up, I haven't talked to her except for that one e-mail, I left her alone because that's what she wanted.