hey everyone just curious what people think about this subject. let me explain a little bit. 1 of my friends just got married and neither him or his now wife had a bachelor/bachelorette party, and when i asked him why he didnt have one he said, " she wouldnt let me" and she told me that if he were to have one that the wedding would be called off !

now tonight another friend of mine this time a female brought up the subject and said that if i guy has a bachelor party he shoudlnt be getting married then .

i myself planned to get married someday, i have the fiance and the ring just need the day and money hahaha anyways we have talked about this before and she is fine with it as long as im not off fawkin some stripper but she thinks i should be able to have a last night of fun with the boys lol and i told her that she is free to have a bachelorette party if she wants just dont do anything she has to regret.

what do guys/gals think of this subject. i know we have a wide varitey between married/divorced/single/dating/engaged people on this forum so its interesting to see where people stand on the subject.

 

Im going to my buddy bachelor party tomorrow and his wife is not going to have one why i don't know. I see nothing wrong with them and if i ever get tied down i would want my wife and myself to have one last fun night.
My other buddy never had one and after he was married we had a huge one and his wife was fine with that but i think the reason for his wife being so cool about it was she was prego and he made all the money for the time being.

 

I had one, and it was a blast. I don't see anything wrong with them as long as you don't go boinging some random ho. It's fun to go to bars and get free drinks, then go chill at someone's house and drink off a keg while you smoke some good cigars. I don't know the ratio of crazy (i.e. naked strippers) parties to "tame" parties, but I'm pretty sure the crazy ones cause stereotypes of the whole.

 

If you're not allowed that "last night of fun", does that mean the nights of fun never end?

 

I had one, my wife had one, and we have the pictures to prove it. My rule has always been dont do anything that you will not be willing to acept from your spouce. Needless to say neither of us fked the strippers. I also organized my 2 brothers and sister's bachellors parties and some of our friends. and let me tell you, the crazyer is not always the better. I have to accept thet on the parties where the groom has actually fked the stripper, have been the less fun ones and the ones that noone wnts to remember and the ones that have been safe (even thow krazy) fun are still the topic of mischevieous conversation when we get together.

 

there was a story on the radio a couple weeks ago about a couple that were about to get married so eachtheir a bachelor/bachelorette party and the woman actually ended up sleeping w/ the male stripper. apperantly the husband had alot of dough......lol, b/c he threw the wedding ring into the ocean! idk, i'd be weary of my wife having one, i've heard too many stories and alcohol changes people and their ability to think, lol.

 

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If you are gonna get married it is assumed that you are/have been/will be faithful. A bachelor party doesn't mean you can boink someone, so what does it mean? It is an excuse for all the other unhappy married guys to get out of the house since their wives are oppressive, manipulating f***king ****s. For the single guys it is a regular night out except it is socially acceptable to 'pay for it'. It is a matter of trust, if she doesn't want him to have that kinda party, the marriage is in trouble before it starts.

Now the flip side is that the womens bachelor parties are FAR WORSE than you can imagine...trust me. So whatever you do, don't let your fiance go out with a bunch of party *****, she will come back 'dirty'.

My opinion is that if a women doesn't want you to have one, she is a bitch, an the marriage will fail. If you get to see a video iof hers, you will get angry and the marriage will fail.

 

If you let her start making the rules now you are setting a really bad precedent for the rest of the marraige. Besides its about just having one last romp, and making sure your friends dont get you into trouble. I had one and it was great. You have to make sure and know the limits and dont do anything you dont want her to do.

 

If a wife does not allow a bachelor party, she is a controlling, insecureb*tch...and she probably gives lousy head (if at all). How can a person marry another that doesn't have any trust? Good luck...you'll be a statistic in about five years. Now, to those that end up cheating; you were never serious to begin with, and you are a scumbag. I don't think alchohol is an excuse...I think it magnifies certain parts of your personality (not always the good ones!!!). That being said, my buddies and I got a bunch of rooms at a casino, drank a lot of watered down casino liquor, gambled our asses off,smoked good cigars, and had a blast!!! I didn't have strippers, but my wife wouldn't have objected. Just my .02...