ok guys back in 2002 i had a 2000 f-4 i was young and stupid doing crazy speeds and thigs i shouldent have done and ended up in a accident on the bike. i am now wanting a new bike but the wife says she will be to nervous. what are some things i can tell her to calm her nerves so i can get a new bike. everytime i see one my heart skips a beat. Iwant one so badi have kids now and she says she dont want to be a single mother but i am now much more resposible and just want to ride to work and on some weekends with my dad and my father in law.

 

I get the same from my family and girlfriend. But it was my money so I just went out and bought one. They all still tell me to sell it and I do try to sell it very slowly though. I put it on craigslist for a price a little bit higher than I paid it. I dont recommend you to buy one without your wife's permission though. You also have a kid too. I was thinking once I get married I will sell the bike. I wouldnt want to have a child and wife and not be there for them if something happens to me, it wouldnt be fair for them. Other than buying one, I dont think it will be easy to convince a woman that has no interest in that stuff.

 

There is a lot of wisdom in that post!

 

You should never have to ask your wife for permission! Just agree on the terms. Explain your older and wiser and understand your responsibilities to her and the kids. Also remind her you could be killed by a drunk driver while in a car just as easy. Don't waste your life with regret. Make sure you got enough life insurance to get college for kids and help the wife just in case. Just my .02 or at least what I did.

 

Wrong answer, marriage is more than dominating a woman macho style. A real man respects his wife.

Wrong answer, check your statistics before boldly claiming something like this.

 

yes i would never buy without her permission. i want a bike so badly but i cant convince her that i will be more carefull on one this time around i was not very matture when i had my last one and i fell i can just ride for fun this time around i dont need to go 100 mph i am not interested in douing stunts or wheelies i just love to ride.

 

cornell, first rule that anyone will tell you about bikes. if you dont have a bike while going into marriage then you will never have one. that is, until you are separated in some manner and lets hope that’s not the case.
two, if you have kids now; forget it!!!!
stop being so selfish! your focus is on the family now and not you. it seems to me that you are still young and still doing crazy things. grow up and move on. sorry about busting your chops but thats reality. all the best.

 

well i guess you dont know me then i am not some young punk kid. I have my priorities straight my family is first. and i had a bike befor i was married. but i thought a 4 wheeler would be fun so now i have a yamaha raptor 700. so i can have my toys. but i just want to make the wife more comforatable with me having a bike. thanks for your replies with anything to help her be more comforatable

 

Purchase a Life Insurance policy, buy your bike, and sleep well knowing that in the unfortunate and unlikely event that you are involved in a fatal accident, your wife will have ample money to forget about you.

There are things you can do to help pursuade your wife that riding a motorcycle isn't as dangerous as it seems:
Take the MSF course.
Take the Advanced MSF course.
Buy/Wear a full set of gear.
Don't show any interest in stunting.
Get good medical on your insurance policy.
Think about a crusier instead of a sport bike.
Join a group and limit your rides (at first) to group rides. (saftey in numbers)
Dont commute on your bike, recreational rides only.

Alekinci
"stop being so selfish! your focus is on the family now and not you." Getting a motorcycle does not mean he is throwing caution to the wind and forgoing his family. Millions of people ride motorcycles every year and are not involved in fatal accidents. Since the majority of accidents occur when alcohol has been consumed, then by the numbers, just avoiding drinking and driving will make riding safer.

 

^+1... I can't imagine my girlfriend telling me that I can't do something that I love. Granted I'm not married and I don't have kids. I'm sort of torn, because I can see where she is coming from. But you only have one life to live man. You should live it. If riding makes you happy, she should understand.