Start saving your duckets NOW if you are having a formal wedding. We had a traditional Catholic wedding, and for ten months, there wasn't an extra dime that wasn't spent on the wedding, but my wife had the wedding of her dreams. + one zillion on the the comment to "do it your way". You will have overwhelming outside influences (mothers...God bless 'em), but it is YOUR wedding (I don't suggest any monkees, black lamps, or midgets, but it's your call). Good luck and congrats!!! PS we honeymooned in Costa Rica, and can I encourage you toat least investigate it? It was'nt that expensive, and we have memories that will last a lifetime. Check these guys out. They planned the trip for us and they did a great job: http://jdwatersports.com/