She's obviously a f*** up and needs help...I was in a situation years ago with a girl who cheated on me and then attempted suicide several times...for many months, I felt she was my responsibility, but it took time to realize that she wasn't. The responsible thing to do is push this person to get some professional help to put her on the right path, but there's only so much one person can do. You can't help a person who doesn't want to help themself. If it was me, I'd ditch the bitch and never look back.

 

woo...i typically would not bother responding to this, but you bring up a good point...but i must counter however....as having personal experience (not me) with a situation like this...

it's one thing to immediately dump (especially a wife, more so if it's been a long marriage) because of a single act of indiscretion...trust me, as much as anyone wants to say jump and run, it's not that easy...

a good friend once told me...concerning his situation...a single act (now you must know it's a single act, and yes you can find out) is just that...a mistake....every guy and girl at some point will "cheat"....now, i don't mean cheating means only sex....that time you are out with the guys and are drunk and at the strip club and end up getting that nice dance with a little extra...that's just as bad...at some point, we are going to screw up...yes...having sex with another is the pen-ultimate f*** up....but, it's just a f*** nonetheless.....to throw away something that is good because of a single drunken, or stupid mistake, sometimes that is a little rash and you can maybe work through things....and as a result have a wonderful relationship...

however....i think what we are dealing with HERE is a different situation...it's one thing to cheat...it's another to have sex, it's even ANOTHER to be so irresponsible to get pregnant, regardless whether a baby is had or not....on top of that...ending up in prison for whatever reasons....these are not the scenarios that equate to a single mistake, or a momentarily lapse in judgment which can be overcome, but rather a specific pattern which is not going to stop....

tut....tell whoever this is that he is getting a glimpse of things to come....to be away 5 months serving your country and hear this, then being made to feel guilty (which is what the letters are for) is sick...this girl is either too young and stupid, or just has the moral compass of a rock...either way....he should be thankful he saw this now as it will only get worse....

you have to look at the whole situation before coming to a conclusion in any relationship...that i know from PERSONAL experience...sometimes what seems horrible is actually something that can be worked through....but when you hear things like this....any good therapist or FRIEND will tell you it's only the beginning and it's time to get out before she ruins him and he ends up with a child that isn't his and a life he didn't bargain for!!

my .02

 

It's not my wife you DICKWAD

 

let's not start this now...let's stay on topic here!

 

That's good! Best of luck to your bro

 

cheating is not a mistake ..a typo is a mistake!!

cheating is grounds for complete removal from my world!!

cheating is a very deliberate act and a betrayal ... if you are married you have broken the marriage vows and one of the ten commandements .. a clinically sane woman who loves you will not cheat on you ..

so if she cheats she has no integrity or is insane or both!!

Either way run!! ..just run!!

Jules


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"Cheating and jail time"

Hmmm... sure we arent talking about John Daly?

 

I can't believe that no one would point out the most obviously disturbing thing about the story. She slept with someone else unprotected!!! In 2008, there's too many STD's and worse out there. Maybe I feel that way b/c I'm from Jersey.
My girlfriend would have at least shown me the respect and used a condom.
Quit her before your d@$% falls off!! LOL!! Seriously!!

 

Little testie, are we?

 

WOW...on second thought, I'm not even going to comment...just way too damn easy...